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kena saman, lagi

In love on November 28, 2006 by carinasuyin

“’tis the season to be married… fa la la la laa la la la laaaaa”
And so it has begun (actually a long, long time ago), the time of the year when invitation cards for weddings descend fast and furious like owl mail over breakfast in the Great Hall of Hogwarts. Opening each card or e-mail invite (whatever happened to good old-fashioned cards?) conjures up the image of crossing out another face on the old class photographs while muttering “Another one bites the dust… one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight… EIGHT WEDDINGS!!!” *cue The Count of Sesame Street’s maniacal laughter, flustered bats and lightning flashes*

Kooky imaginations aside, I enjoy attending weddings, really, I do… Maybe for the simple fact that they are not mine hee… or that weddings are interesting distillations of the blessings, tribulations, drama and aspirations of life, all in just a ceremony and a day or two. Weddings are also great events to observe people: the celebrated couple, the parents, the siblings, the friends, the bridesmaid, the best man, the exes, the relatives, the priest, the tai kam che, and numerous characters among strange faces. Salutations, cheers and toasts are expressed abundantly during the subsequent merry feasting but it is often those unspoken that are much more interesting. Words may deceive or exaggerate but facial emotions and body language seldom do. I have often wondered what were the stories, feelings and thoughts behind the faces that ran the gamut from joy to sadness.

At weddings too, you can watch how tradition and respect for the elders merge with the modern desires and trends of the younger generation. A wedding can be simple but almost always filled with complex personas, beliefs, nuances, rites and expectations. Most of the time, weddings leave me in awe and misty-eyed from the rich display of love, joy and kinship. Sometimes I leave more than hopeful about that thing called love. There are also times when I can’t help but leave a wee bit skeptical, bored (try watching the fourth Powerpoint presentation about how the couple grew up or the chronological account of their courtship), mortified (disastrous sermons or being assaulted out of your senses by kitschy karaoke singers) or even poorer after say, the third wedding in a row!

Nevertheless, attending weddings is still exciting for me, except for the stress-inducing indecision of what to wear, that is. Among my closest friends, only one has tied the knot thus far. Maybe my view will be different once everyone else has taken the plunge or should my turn arrive someday. Till then, weddings will remain lovely reasons for reunion among friends and family, a celebratory testament to love, commitment and sigh, the beautiful unions of blessed souls… and of course, reminders of a little wish for some magic in the air… *wink*

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5 Responses to “kena saman, lagi”

  1. Hello Carina! Wah new haircut? Looks like a princess.

    *cough* 8 weddings?! But seems like you enjoy and indulge in friends’ weddings and happiness. HEHE after all Chinese style of wedding dinner tends to be a reunion for all, that’s why the parents persist to bai zhao πŸ˜€

  2. i like the new hair cut too!

    although i have a thang goin’ for chics with cropped hair. me likes non-conventions!

  3. Coffeeholic: Hi! Yeah, thanks! 8 invitations… managed to attend 3 and attending another 2. So 5/8 for this year (hopefully it stays at eight) πŸ˜›

    kit: Yeay, I’m lovin’ it! It was between an ultra short bob or curls.

  4. Your hair!!! Looks great…..sophisicated yet youthful! NICE! Hope my wedding didn’t bore you too much since mine has just only 1 video montaque hahaha. Hmmm….1 or 2 huh? Anyway, cool blog coz I’ve stop visiting Stomp’s and chose yours instead. Honestly I never enjoy weddings….not that I mind the blissfulness but the whole wedding scene has become somewhat boring, diluted and pretentious. Cynical? Maybe? Hardly you get both the couple and their respective parents bimming with pride and happiness all at the same time. At least not at those I attended. I hope and wish in the future, they would have ironed-out their differences and issues before the wedding…..my poor couz here has another 5 to go

  5. Hallo couz! Thanks πŸ™‚ Your wedding was really fun! I remembered the video being hilarious especially the part you guys kena punished for being late and when one hia tee exclaimed “no more Chinese weddings for me!” after eating the bittergourd. Hee… πŸ˜€

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