“Take two human ingredients, distinct and separate, and put them together in the mixing bowl of a close relationship. Stir vigorously and apply heat – the heat of sexual desire, emotional need, conflict, intellectual exchange, the challenges of time and mundane circumstances, idealisation and inspiration – and through some extraordinary alchemy a new entity is created with its own life-force, its own intelligence and vision, and its own identity independent of and different from the two people who generated it.”
C G Jung
We made an invite card each for the wedding lunch and dinner. The card design was a word cloud of Erich Fromm’s The Art of Loving, created using Wordle.
I was really pleased with my bouquet of freesias, champagne roses & tea leaves; a little bundle of calm amidst the frenzy of the day’s activities. The florist also gave additional stalks of white freesias which Jean added to my hair at lunch.
Instead of a ring pillow, we tied our wedding bands onto a Muji faux-leather jacketed copy of The Art of Loving. The rings were made all the more precious and meaningful as they almost made Johannis habis in a dramatic moment during the church ceremony that the three of us will recall with much laughter long into the future.
Wedding Invitations: Design by John and Carina, with much thanks to Francisca for layout and Derrick for printing! / Bridal Posy: Secret Garden by Jaslyn / Wedding Bands: Timoku Titanium Rings by Edward Mirell / Photographer: Alwin Lim of Lightedpixels Photography
As the earlier gown didn’t work out, I was really relieved to find a lovely lace dress at the very last minute. No white/beige shoes or gold jewelry for me, I knew I had to have a pair of bright red shoes and a double-looped string of black pearls to go with my black and grey titanium ring.
Made a boutonniere for John with felt and buttons in lieu of the usual flower corsage. John was the envy of many male guests as he wore a very comfortable pair of sneakers with bright red soles and looked well slack with a loose skinny tie from 77th Street
The girls looked lovely in a sea of green, turquoise and blue dresses of their own.
Wedding Dress and Veil: Silhouette The Atelier / Carina’s Shoes: Aldo / Carina’s Accessories: Chomel / John’s Apparel: CYC The Custom Shop / John’s Sneakers: Adidas / Makeup and Hair: Jean Aw
With Mama and Atah in the London Cab en route to church.
We got Fr. Richards’ consent to play Here Comes the Sun by George Harrison (from The Beatles’ 1969 album Abbey Road) and Across the Universe by The Beatles; a cover by Rufus Wainwright (US edition bonus track in 2002 album Poses), as our processional and recessional songs, respectively… wee! We also had the awesome guys and girls from The Graduate Singers as our choristers who sang a moving rendition of Eric Whitacre’s This Marriage.
Supra painstakingly assembled my buku tulis-inspired wedding mass booklets and we gave away little packets of raisins as wedding favours.
Lunch immediately after the wedding ceremony in the morning was a sumptuous one with family and relatives who came from near and far. It was awesome to see everyone enjoying the contemporary Chinese dishes. We had a good chuckle with the super long meal blessing by Fr. Kamil and speeches from John’s mom and Atah.
After a short rest in the afternoon, it was time for dinner! The long table setup and cosy ambience was a nice surprise for our guests as they mingled over canapés and drinks. We had set out to select a non-hotel venue and was really pleased when we found Chalk – many thanks to Lauren, Marcus and their excellent crew!
Evie, Pohf, Lish and Guon did a splendid job arranging the plant favours, placemats and guest seating.
The placemats had the dinner menu printed on it and doubled up as place cards (handwritten name labels) and main course indicator (colour of placemat).
The wedding favour of assorted little plants in chinese takeout boxes labeled with respective scientific names were a hit with the guests, many whom took several pots home.
Our wedding dinner was just as we wanted it to be: an intimate and cosy gathering of friends merrymaking over great music (our very own digital mix tape), absolutely delicious food and lots of cider, wine and beer! Cheers!
Wedding Ceremony Venue: Church of the Holy Spirit, Upper Thomson Road / Wedding Lunch Venue: My Humble House, Esplanade Mall / Wedding Dinner Venue: Chalk, Old School / Carina’s Dress: Aidan Mattox / Carina’s Wrap Boots: TOMS / Plants: Far East Flora